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The sense of anticipation around trying to conceive<\/a> can easily turn into frustration and emotional pain when the process hits unexpected snags, or if takes longer than you were expecting – and that\u2019s just from the inside. Dealing with that pain and frustration can be even harder in the context of the rest of your life, especially when \u2018the rest of your life\u2019 includes family and friends who have children or become pregnant as you\u2019re trying.<\/p>\n

Getting feelings of depression while trying to conceive?<\/h2>\n

It would be nice to be able to be the person who is always graciously happy for the good news of your friends and family, even when it\u2019s good news you wish you were getting for yourself. Unfortunately, that\u2019s not always the way emotions work out – but that\u2019s okay. As with a lot of instinctive emotional responses, the important thing isn\u2019t what they are, so much as how you handle them.<\/p>\n

Remember who your friends are<\/h3>\n

If your best friend since college has a brand new baby who is all she wants to talk about when you two meet to catch up, it may feel like she\u2019s twisting the knife, but you should know differently. She\u2019s just excited for this new phase of her life, and she wants to share it with you.<\/p>\n

Knowing that may not make it hurt less, but it\u2019s important to the way you react. Your friend (or sister-in-law, coworker you grab lunch with, or particularly friendly bank-teller) doesn\u2019t want to hurt you, and will probably modify the way she talks to you for a while, if you ask her to, or be willing to give you a little space until your feelings calm down.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s okay to take a time-out<\/h3>\n

As long as you take a moment to have the \u2018it\u2019s not you, it\u2019s me,\u2019 conversation, many of the people in your life will understand if you need to take a moment to dial back a relationship for your own peace of mind, especially if they\u2019ve been through the same process.<\/p>\n

My way or the highway<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019re feeling this way, it\u2019s easy to start to feel resentful of friends who aren\u2019t struggling to conceive. This goes double for those who might complain about their young children. It\u2019s not the most tactful thing to say to you at that moment, and if it really hurts you, you might want to have a conversation with them about it. But just because it\u2019s a problem you would love to be dealing with, that doesn\u2019t mean they aren\u2019t having a hard time. It would be easy to say they just don\u2019t how good what they have is, but parenting is a difficult job, and it\u2019s easy for new parents to feel isolated and alone, just like you.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t burn your bridges<\/h3>\n

Even if you\u2019re having a hard time relating to them now, your friends and family are still your friends and family. When you conceive, you\u2019re going to want to share your news with them, the same way they wanted to share their happiness with you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The sense of anticipation around trying to conceive can easily turn into frustration and emotional pain when the process hits unexpected snags, or if takes longer than you were expecting – and that’s just from the inside. Dealing with that pain and frustration can be even harder in the context of the rest of your life, especially when ‘the rest of your life’ includes family and friends who have children or become pregnant as you’re trying.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":157203,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ovia_author_name":"","ovia_author_prefix":"","ovia_author_image":"","ovia_content_type_id":"176","ovia_product_mode":"2","ovia_days_from_signup":"66","ovia_days_from_lmp":"","ovia_days_from_baby_birth":"","ovia_days_from_enroll":"","ovia_health_module_days_from":"","ovia_article_for_email_days_from":"","ovia_health_module":"","ovia_legacy_id2":"216","ovia_ttc":"1","ovia_article_subtype":"","ovia_health_symptom":"","ovia_partner_id":"","ovia_partner_custom_group":"","ovia_legacy_category":"112","ovia_legacy_category2":"","ovia_content_url_id":"37300","ovia_include_share_buttons":"","ovia_fertility_goal":"2","ovia_secondary_module":"","ovia_trimester":"","ovia_child_age":"","ovia_share_image":"","ovia_more_menu_image":"","ovia_button1_url":"","ovia_days_from_postpartum":"","footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"fert-category":[33,35,19,18],"preg-category":[],"parent-category":[],"fert-tag":[240,231,244,191],"preg-tag":[],"parent-tag":[],"class_list":["post-216","article","type-article","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","fert-category-health-and-wellness","fert-category-mental-health","fert-category-preconception-planning","fert-category-trying-to-conceive","fert-tag-fertility-and-mental-health","fert-tag-fertility-disorders","fert-tag-managing-stress","fert-tag-patient-self-advocacy"],"yoast_head":"\nGetting feelings of depression while trying to conceive?<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Getting feelings of depression while trying to conceive? 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