{"id":102456,"date":"2020-04-06T05:15:39","date_gmt":"2020-04-06T09:15:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp.oviahealth.com\/guide\/102456\/should-children-be-forced-to-hug-relatives\/"},"modified":"2021-11-17T15:25:19","modified_gmt":"2021-11-17T20:25:19","slug":"should-children-be-forced-to-hug-relatives","status":"publish","type":"article","link":"https:\/\/www.oviahealth.com\/guide\/102456\/should-children-be-forced-to-hug-relatives\/","title":{"rendered":"Should I make my child hug relatives?"},"content":{"rendered":"

There are a lot of reasons you might not want to hug or kiss someone on any given day. Maybe you don’t like them very much, maybe they smell a little weird, or maybe you’re feeling grumpy or tired. If you don’t want to hug someone, any reason is as good as the next because they all reach the same conclusion: you don’t want to.<\/span><\/p>\n

As adults, we can politely bow out of most situations we’re uncomfortable with, but children don’t have that power most of the time. If Grandma wants a hug and Baby<\/span> doesn’t want to give her one, they still might<\/span> oblige if you tell them<\/span> to. While it’s great that Baby<\/span> listens to you, this might be a situation where you use your voice as a parent to make sure Baby<\/span> knows that they has<\/span> the power to say no.<\/span><\/p>\n

The reason that empowering Baby<\/span> to say no to a hug is different than saying no to bedtime or broccoli is the impact their<\/span> understanding of consent can have on their<\/span> future. When you tell Baby<\/span> to go ahead and give someone a hug, even though they doesn’t<\/span> want to, you’re also telling them<\/span> that someone other than them<\/span> can make decisions about their<\/span> body.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your child should know what kind of touching is appropriate and what to do if someone touches them<\/span> inappropriately, but it helps to reinforce this lesson by giving Baby<\/span> the authority to say what touching they is<\/span> comfortable with, including a hug. That way, they will<\/span> better understand that no one can touch them<\/span> against their<\/span> will, strangers and relatives alike.<\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, this isn’t a free pass for Baby<\/span> to abandon manners when they isn’t<\/span> feeling social. Talk to them<\/span> about why it’s important to say hello and goodbye to loved ones, and encourage them<\/span> to offer a high five or a wave if they doesn’t<\/span> feel like hugging.<\/span><\/p>\n

If friends and family don’t understand why your little one isn’t hugging them, just explain that you let Baby<\/span> decide who they does<\/span> and doesn’t want to show affection to. You can also tell them that they can rest assured that any hug or kiss from Baby<\/span> is a totally sincere one. <\/span><\/p>\n

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